The most commitment friendly men tend to have a good relationship with their fathers. Or at least talk about their fathers with fondness and respect. Interesting huh?
You may be wondering why, so let’s look a bit more closely at this…
For a son to have any sort of a decent relationship with his father, that usually means the father was present emotionally during the upbringing of the child.
It’s the father’s emotional commitment to the son that is forever remembered by the child. And look, most of us have subconsciously copied our parent’s patterns and ways of doing and thinking.
It gets passed onto us simply because of proximity regardless of whether we consciously want those patterns or not.
So for a boy growing up with a committed father, he learns the pattern of committing to this future children. That doesn’t mean he always will always be there for his own kids, it just means he has a higher likelihood of doing so because he is very familiar with that pattern of behavior.
...And a man who is more likely to commit to his future kids will be more likely to commit to the woman he is with and to the relationship.
So that leads me to point out that the men who are the LEAST commitment friendly tend to be those with NO relationship or very little relationship with their father Perhaps the father was absent or emotionally unavailable.
And even if he dislikes his father for not being there, it doesn’t stop the fact that the child may have picked up his father’s pattern of absence and emotional unavailability.
SO it’s a great idea to always ask your man about his relationship with his father, and see for yourself what patterns he had potentially inherited from his father. This isn’t an absolute make or break point however, as some boys find other male role models outside of his real father.
It’s more about seeing the patterns that he has adopted when it comes to fatherhood.