When your man pulls away from you, it becomes a defining moment for your relationship.
Discover the secret to showing up & staying as a high value woman when your man pulls away (even when you are scared and desperate to have him back), so that he can come back to you with more interest, more desire & more appreciation for you.
If you don’t know how to respond to your man pulling away, withdrawing, going cold… then you are giving him reasons to doubt your value as a woman… don’t worry, read on and I will show you how you respond as a high value woman...
He hasn’t called in SO MANY days!
What’s going on? Is it me? Did I do something wrong?
I thought we were going well… we connected so well!
Let me check my phone… nothing.
Slight panic starts to set in…Should I send him a message? Should I check on whether he’s ok?
No, I shouldn’t do that!!! Or should I?
He was texting me so much before this happened… he was so interested in me… did something happen? Did he lose interest?
Did he find someone else???
Hey It’s Renee here the founder of The Feminine Woman and co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach you how to show up in a high value high status way so that you can easily inspire a deep emotional sense of commitment from a high value man.
I know you’ve felt this way before. I certainly have. In fact, every woman I’ve known, has felt this way before.
This is definitely not a unique problem. (I mean, shouldn’t men know that it hurts us when they pull away?)
Like most men who are not in tune with women - no, they are not sensitive to how it affects us when they disappear, go cold and pulls away from the relationship.
(Of course, men have their own reason to do so, which we will talk about in a moment.)
And what’s worse, is that him pulling away is always at an unexpected time. He never gives you any warnings… it just happens and leaves you hanging.
I totally understand how all this would make you feel deep down inside. I think most of us women go through the same experience when our man pulls away.
And it’s easy just to do whatever feels right in those desperate moments, but let me just hold that thought for a second.
I want to tell you something important.
How you deal with those times when he pulls away, will ultimately determine the future and destiny of your relationship. Fears and insecurities will ultimately cause a lot more damage to your relationship than you can imagine.
It is absolutely critical that you show up as a high value woman in those moments when your man pulls away… let me explain why...
How you deal with those times when your man pulls away, will determine the future of your relationship.
There are a few “make or break” moments in any relationship. How these moments turn out will permanently affect the future of that relationship.
When your man pulls away from you, especially the first few times, are definitely make or break moments.
From a man’s perspective, how you respond to him pulling away will give him a glimpse into whether you’re the right woman for him or not.
In my experience speaking to and coaching thousands of women around the world, I’ve realized that more often than not, women are too overly optimistic about how the man feels about the relationship.
We, as women, think that they operate the same way as us, and that relationships mean the same to them as they do to us.
This feminine way of thinking, usually does NOT apply to men.
(Of course it’s not our fault, we’re just thinking like the women that we are!)
And so when the man pulls away, goes cold and disappears (even for a little while), it can completely throw us off emotionally.
It is so easy for us women to feel needy, desperate and act out of those fears, even when there really isn’t anything wrong from his perspective.
He has pulled away for his own masculine reasons, which are not intuitive for us women to understand or relate to.
But the moment we start acting from that needy and low value place, we are sending the message to him that we are not worthy.
And if you have followed my teachings, you probably know that acting from a fearful and low value place is the worse thing you could do, especially in the earlier stages of a relationship.
It sends ALL kinds of wrong messages to your man, it is literally giving him emotional reasons to stay further away from you.
And as you may have painfully experienced, the more you chase the man, the harder it is to get hold of him.
Look... It’s Perfectly OK to Feel Needy, Desperate, and Low Value...
It’s not always easy to admit, but secretly I think we’ve all been there.
From being a normally confident woman, we suddenly become plagued with feelings of neediness, desperation, and loss.
We feel like we need to cling onto something. We need something stable in the chaos that has overcome our lives.
There is something that instinctively and biologically happens in us women when our men pulls away. We instinctively feel scared, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
It is perfectly normal, even though it may not feel like it at the time.
(And men... they never give us any warnings, any preparation or ideas as to when they will come back, which completely adds to our fears.)
Then in the state of uncertainty, the last thing you want to do is act from that instinctive fear.
But sometimes you can't help it.
And of course, immediate regret follows.
You realize you shouldn’t have acted so needy, so desperate or low value. But it’s too late to take it back now.
What’s done is done.
Look, I’m not one to tell you that you shouldn’t feel those emotions. I’m not one to tell you to stay strong, and block any feelings that may come up.
After all, those feelings are not wrong. You’re a feminine woman, just like me, and our emotions serve us greatly.
What we need to do instead, is to use these powerful emotions to help us learn, grow and become better women.
We need to embrace these emotions fully, rather than running away from them or blocking them out.
It’s these emotions that will ultimately give us incredible power, if we don’t run away from them, or make them wrong.
Your fears feel absolutely real, they are no joke!
I would like to take this moment to acknowledge your fears. They are real. They exist.
But let me tell you more about these fears...
They come from lack of understanding of men and their masculine biology. Men don’t feel the same way we do, in other words, they don’t really “get” what us women have to go through.
They don’t get that by pulling away suddenly, it sends our lives and our emotions into a tailspin.
It’s not intuitive for them to feel what we feel, because they don’t share our feminine biology. And that’s not bad, it is just one of the many gender biology gaps that we need to overcome.
After all, all fears come from the unknown. What we don’t know, or what we are not sure of, scares us.
So if we, as women, took the time to understand and appreciate men for why and how they operate, then we will no longer be in the dark.
We will no longer have confusion or insecurities, because we would have certainty in the truth.
The truth is that men will always pull away sooner or later.
They have to. They need to.
Their biology requires it.
So it’s not about stopping your man from pulling away, it’s about having the emotional resources to show up as high value when he does pull away.
Because when you can truly show up as a high value woman in those moments, then he will come back to you with more love, more respect and appreciation.
But does he really have to pull away from the relationship?
Short answer is… yes.
And it usually has nothing to do with you.
If you’ve been following my work for a while, you may have heard me say that intimate relationships is not a masculine domain.
In other words, men don’t revolve their lives around relationships.
For most of us women who live in our feminine core, relationships are of utmost importance.
After all, you have to respect the huge differences in biology between a masculine man and a feminine woman.
For a masculine man, they can't be too attached and too involved in a relationship for too long.
It will actually decrease his natural testosterone levels, increases his cortisol levels and therefore his stress level.
The reason why every single man will pull away is primarily due to him wanting to replenish his testosterone, and his identity as a man.
Without doing this, he will eventually lose a sense of himself, a sense of independence and drive.
(And actually lose his ambitions, his masculine “umph”, and perhaps lose the reason why you were attracted to him in the first place!)
So it’s not if your man will pull away, it’s when.
And it’s what you will do in response to him pulling away that will determine the future of your relationship.
Men can easily pick when a woman acts “low value”, and it makes them run the other way.
Yes, men are notoriously good at picking up when women act low value.
See, both men and women have evolved to have very sophisticated ways to detect how high or low value a potential partner is.
From a scientific and evolutionary perspective, it’s here to help us avoid wasting time with low value mates that aren’t worth our time.
And this is a finely tuned mechanism inside of all of us, as we make most of our judgement and decisions based upon subconscious cues.
Imagine if you saw a man who kept seeking approval of his peers, you’d instantly see him as low value, right?
Even if he had lots of money, he would still be somewhat low value.
Even if he was a celebrity, that kind of behaviour is low value.
Now imagine that all men having “low value” radars for women, and it’s default setting is “ultra sensitive”.
They sense it straight away, when a woman acts low value.
They may not be able to voice what it is, but they know it’s a feeling.
This is critical for you to understand if you’re still in the dating period.
If you and your man have spent years in an already established a long term committed relationship, (and that you’ve proven over and over that you are a high value woman), then this isn’t as important.
(Proving your value isn’t as important, since you’ve done it over and over for a long time.)
But for most women out there, this is not the case.
The biggest problem is of course, when you act from fear, from insecurity and desperation, you are blinded to how low value your actions may come across.
And before you even realize it, it’s too late. He’s already gotten your subconscious low value cues so loudly that no words can undo his impression of you.
Is it really possible for him to come back to me with more love, affection and appreciation?
Of course it is!
But how they are when they come back is in direct reflection to how you’ve responded to him pulling away.
If you were acting straight out of fear when he was gone, then you can guarantee he will have fears coming back to you.
He fears that you might be upset at him… (even though he feels like he did nothing wrong in his own masculine mind)
He fears that you might be out to punish him…
His biggest fears is that perhaps he will never be able to leave you alone, have any time to himself, to be by himself, to stay in his “man cave”, and replenish his own essence as a man.
In other words, losing his freedom as a man.
And if that’s the case, then it is not a relationship he could commit to, because no man would trade his freedom for a relationship.
(That’s how much men value their freedom!)
So the only real way to respond to your man pulling away is through understanding, appreciation, love and faith.
Have trust in that we can only control what we can control. Trust in that if there was enough attraction and connection in the relationship, then he is bound to come back, (and come back more refreshed and replenished as a man).
How do high value women deal with their man pulling away?
Firstly, if you’ve read everything up to here, you’ve already taken the first step. You’ve already begun to understand and have more appreciation for why men pull away.
You’re already on the path of showing up as a high value woman next time your man pulls away.
But the next step is perhaps the most difficult. It is all about loving through your fears. Having so much love in your heart and soul that no fear will take control of you.
See, I used to think that I can deal with my man pulling away simply by not caring, blocking off any of those emotions that came up.
After all, if i didn’t care, then it wouldn’t hurt me. And that works “ok” temporarily as damage control… (at least it was better than being desperate and needy!)
But soon enough, I realized the biggest problem with that kind of thinking is this… by blocking out my own fears and insecurities, I slowly got used to being cold, distant and apathetic.
It became a habit that was hard to shake, and it was against everything I believed in.
How could passion and love exist when there’s emotional distance and apathy? What’s the purpose of an intimate relationship when there’s no love or passion?
This is why loving through your fears is the most difficult path to take. But it’s one that will not only connect you with your soul at a depth you’ve never experienced before, but also it will help inspire your man to be there for you and your vulnerabilities.
See, I believe there are two ways to respond to every event, through love or through fear. And hands down, love is always the better option. Love wins every single time, even though it’s not as easy sometimes.
You’ve already taken the first step, congratulations. If you want to take the next few steps, then read on and allow me to guide and facilitate your journey to showing up as a high value woman when your man pulls away.
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As I stated many times now, if you’re still in that phase of your relationship where you’re trying to prove your value to each other… then it’s imperative that you don’t give the impression that you are low value.
That’s like shooting yourself in the foot with a shotgun.
Because most of the time, your man will pick up all the subconscious, under the radar cues and clues as to what kind of woman you are. Our non-verbal communications speak way louder than our words can ever replace.
And so are your non-verbal communications telling him that you are high value and worth his pursuit and commitment?
Look, I don’t mean to put you on the spot here.
I’m emphasizing this because I’ve made so many mistakes in my own life, and it pains me to see others go through similar experiences.
I want to save you some unnecessary suffering, heartaches and lost time.
So if you want to learn more, here’s what I’ve done. I’ve put together a comprehensive special report called… “How to Stay High Value When He Pulls Away”.
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Now I must mention, this isn’t for everyone.
I know for a fact, that a certain percentage of women will continue their old patterns when their man pulls away regardless of any new ideas, knowledge or wisdom. Some people are too stuck in their ways.
Some of what I teach may be radical, or unconventional, and perhaps that’s why I have so many women loving what I write and teach, but I understand that it’s not the path for everyone.
You would know in your gut, whether this special report is for you or not.
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What would you give to have your man know in his heart that you respect him, and want the best for him, without adding more pressure to his life?
How much would you pay for knowing with certainty that are always doing the right thing in your relationship because you're showing up as a high value woman?
And how much would all of this mean to you and your life? What kind of negative emotions will you be able to avoid because of this knowledge?
I know this is stupid, but look.
I’ve had celebrities, high end lawyers and doctors pay me over $1,000 an hour for my coaching and advice. (Not to brag here...)
I’ve turned down more interview and consultation offers than I would like to remember.
The truth is… when I send you this special report, it doesn’t cost me very much because it’s a digital delivery. There’s no ink, no paper, no delivery man.
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Ok… I’ll confess.
There is a catch.
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Here’s what I believe. If you want to learn something quickly… you need multiple perspectives. You need to hear things from different people in different ways. You want seek out different ways of looking at the problem.
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Why Should I Learn This? What Will It Do for Me?
Learning how to respond and deal with the times when your man pulls away is one of the most important skills to have as a woman – in my opinion.
Why? Because what you do or don’t do communicates SO MUCH to a man on a subconscious level that even he may not be able to explain.
In these make or break moments, your job as a woman is to show up in a high value high status way, so that your man sees, feels and knows that you’re not needy and desperate like other women.
And there’s nothing as much a turn off as a woman being needy and desperate, acting low value.
This report will give you the strategies so that you can also show up in that high value way when your man pulls away.
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