When your man pulls away from you, it becomes a defining moment for your relationship.

Discover the secret to showing up & staying as a high value woman when your man pulls away (even when you are scared and desperate to have him back), so that he can come back to you with more interest, more desire & more appreciation for you.


If you don’t know how to respond to your man pulling away, withdrawing, going cold… then you are giving him reasons to doubt your value as a woman… don’t worry, read on and I will show you how you respond as a high value woman...

He hasn’t called in SO MANY days!

What’s going on? Is it me? Did I do something wrong?

I thought we were going well… we connected so well!

Let me check my phone… nothing.

Slight panic starts to set in…Should I send him a message? Should I check on whether he’s ok?

No, I shouldn’t do that!!! Or should I?

He was texting me so much before this happened… he was so interested in me… did something happen? Did he lose interest?

Did he find someone else???

Hey It’s Renee here the founder of The Feminine Woman and co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach you how to show up in a high value high status way so that you can easily inspire a deep emotional sense of commitment from a high value man.

I know you’ve felt this way before. I certainly have. In fact, every woman I’ve known, has felt this way before.

This is definitely not a unique problem. (I mean, shouldn’t men know that it hurts us when they pull away?)

Like most men who are not in tune with women - no, they are not sensitive to how it affects us when they disappear, go cold and pulls away from the relationship.

(Of course, men have their own reason to do so, which we will talk about in a moment.)

And what’s worse, is that him pulling away is always at an unexpected time. He never gives you any warnings… it just happens and leaves you hanging.

I totally understand how all this would make you feel deep down inside. I think most of us women go through the same experience when our man pulls away.

And it’s easy just to do whatever feels right in those desperate moments, but let me just hold that thought for a second.

I want to tell you something important.

How you deal with those times when he pulls away, will ultimately determine the future and destiny of your relationship. Fears and insecurities will ultimately cause a lot more damage to your relationship than you can imagine.

It is absolutely critical that you show up as a high value woman in those moments when your man pulls away… let me explain why...


How you deal with those times when your man pulls away, will determine the future of your relationship.


There are a few “make or break”  moments in any relationship. How these moments turn out will permanently affect the future of that relationship.  

When your man pulls away from you, especially the first few times, are definitely make or break moments.

From a man’s perspective, how you respond to him pulling away will give him a glimpse into whether you’re the right woman for him or not.

In my experience speaking to and coaching thousands of women around the world, I’ve realized that more often than not, women are too overly optimistic about how the man feels about the relationship.

We, as women, think that they operate the same way as us, and that relationships mean the same to them as they do to us.

This feminine way of thinking, usually does NOT apply to men.

(Of course it’s not our fault, we’re just thinking like the women that we are!)


And so when the man pulls away, goes cold and disappears (even for a little while), it can completely throw us off emotionally.

It is so easy for us women to feel needy, desperate and act out of those fears, even when there really isn’t anything wrong from his perspective.

He has pulled away for his own masculine reasons, which are not intuitive for us women to understand or relate to.

But the moment we start acting from that needy and low value place, we are sending the message to him that we are not worthy.

And if you have followed my teachings, you probably know that acting from a fearful and low value place is the worse thing you could do, especially in the earlier stages of a relationship.

It sends ALL kinds of wrong messages to your man, it is literally giving him emotional reasons to stay further away from you.

And as you may have painfully experienced, the more you chase the man, the harder it is to get hold of him.


Look... It’s Perfectly OK to Feel Needy, Desperate, and Low Value...


It’s not always easy to admit, but secretly I think we’ve all been there.

From being a normally confident woman, we suddenly become plagued with feelings of neediness, desperation, and loss.

We feel like we need to cling onto something. We need something stable in the chaos that has overcome our lives.

There is something that instinctively and biologically happens in us women when our men pulls away. We instinctively feel scared, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

It is perfectly normal, even though it may not feel like it at the time.

(And men... they never give us any warnings, any preparation or ideas as to when they will come back, which completely adds to our fears.)

Then in the state of uncertainty, the last thing you want to do is act from that instinctive fear.

But sometimes you can't help it.

And of course, immediate regret follows.

You realize you shouldn’t have acted so needy, so desperate or low value. But it’s too late to take it back now.

What’s done is done.


Look, I’m not one to tell you that you shouldn’t feel those emotions. I’m not one to tell you to stay strong, and block any feelings that may come up.

After all, those feelings are not wrong. You’re a feminine woman, just like me, and our emotions serve us greatly.

What we need to do instead, is to use these powerful emotions to help us learn, grow and become better women.

We need to embrace these emotions fully, rather than running away from them or blocking them out.

It’s these emotions that will ultimately give us incredible power, if we don’t run away from them, or make them wrong.

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Your fears feel absolutely real, they are no joke!


I would like to take this moment to acknowledge your fears. They are real. They exist.

But let me tell you more about these fears...

They come from lack of understanding of men and their masculine biology. Men don’t feel the same way we do, in other words, they don’t really “get” what us women have to go through.

They don’t get that by pulling away suddenly, it sends our lives and our emotions into a tailspin.

It’s not intuitive for them to feel what we feel, because they don’t share our feminine biology. And that’s not bad, it is just one of the many gender biology gaps that we need to overcome.

After all, all fears come from the unknown. What we don’t know, or what we are not sure of, scares us.

So if we, as women, took the time to understand and appreciate men for why and how they operate, then we will no longer be in the dark.

We will no longer have confusion or insecurities, because we would have certainty in the truth.

The truth is that men will always pull away sooner or later.

They have to. They need to.

Their biology requires it.

So it’s not about stopping your man from pulling away, it’s about having the emotional resources to show up as high value when he does pull away.

Because when you can truly show up as a high value woman in those moments, then he will come back to you with more love, more respect and appreciation.


But does he really have to pull away from the relationship?


Short answer is… yes.

And it usually has nothing to do with you.

If you’ve been following my work for a while, you may have heard me say that intimate relationships is not a masculine domain.

In other words, men don’t revolve their lives around relationships.

For most of us women who live in our feminine core, relationships are of utmost importance. 

After all, you have to respect the huge differences in biology between a masculine man and a feminine woman.

For a masculine man, they can't be too attached and too involved in a relationship for too long.

It will actually decrease his natural testosterone levels, increases his cortisol levels and therefore his stress level.

The reason why every single man will pull away is primarily due to him wanting to replenish his testosterone, and his identity as a man.

Without doing this, he will eventually lose a sense of himself, a sense of independence and drive.

(And actually lose his ambitions, his masculine “umph”, and perhaps lose the reason why you were attracted to him in the first place!)

So it’s not if your man will pull away, it’s when.

And it’s what you will do in response to him pulling away that will determine the future of your relationship.


Men can easily pick when a woman acts “low value”, and it makes them run the other way.


Yes, men are notoriously good at picking up when women act low value.

See, both men and women have evolved to have very sophisticated ways to detect how high or low value a potential partner is.

From a scientific and evolutionary perspective, it’s here to help us avoid wasting time with low value mates that aren’t worth our time.

And this is a finely tuned mechanism inside of all of us, as we make most of our judgement and decisions based upon subconscious cues.

Imagine if you saw a man who kept seeking approval of his peers, you’d instantly see him as low value, right?

Even if he had lots of money, he would still be somewhat low value.

Even if he was a celebrity, that kind of behaviour is low value.  

Now imagine that all men having “low value” radars for women, and it’s default setting is “ultra sensitive”.

They sense it straight away, when a woman acts low value.

They may not be able to voice what it is, but they know it’s a feeling.

This is critical for you to understand if you’re still in the dating period.

If you and your man have spent years in an already established a long term committed relationship, (and that you’ve proven over and over that you are a high value woman), then this isn’t as important.

(Proving your value isn’t as important, since you’ve done it over and over for a long time.)

But for most women out there, this is not the case.

The biggest problem is of course, when you act from fear, from insecurity and desperation, you are blinded to how low value your actions may come across.

And before you even realize it, it’s too late. He’s already gotten your subconscious low value cues so loudly that no words can undo his impression of you.


Is it really possible for him to come back to me with more love, affection and appreciation?


Of course it is!

But how they are when they come back is in direct reflection to how you’ve responded to him pulling away.

If you were acting straight out of fear when he was gone, then you can guarantee he will have fears coming back to you.

He fears that you might be upset at him… (even though he feels like he did nothing wrong in his own masculine mind)

He fears that you might be out to punish him…

His biggest fears is that perhaps he will never be able to leave you alone, have any time to himself, to be by himself, to stay in his “man cave”, and replenish his own essence as a man.

In other words, losing his freedom as a man.

And if that’s the case, then it is not a relationship he could commit to, because no man would trade his freedom for a relationship.

(That’s how much men value their freedom!)

So the only real way to respond to your man pulling away is through understanding, appreciation, love and faith.

Have trust in that we can only control what we can control. Trust in that if there was enough attraction and connection in the relationship, then he is bound to come back, (and come back more refreshed and replenished as a man).


How do high value women deal with their man pulling away?


Firstly, if you’ve read everything up to here, you’ve already taken the first step. You’ve already begun to understand and have more appreciation for why men pull away.

You’re already on the path of showing up as a high value woman next time your man pulls away.

But the next step is perhaps the most difficult. It is all about loving through your fears. Having so much love in your heart and soul that no fear will take control of you.

See, I used to think that I can deal with my man pulling away simply by not caring, blocking off any of those emotions that came up.

After all, if i didn’t care, then it wouldn’t hurt me. And that works “ok” temporarily as damage control… (at least it was better than being desperate and needy!)

But soon enough, I realized the biggest problem with that kind of thinking is this… by blocking out my own fears and insecurities, I slowly got used to being cold, distant and apathetic.

It became a habit that was hard to shake, and it was against everything I believed in.

How could passion and love exist when there’s emotional distance and apathy? What’s the purpose of an intimate relationship when there’s no love or passion?

This is why loving through your fears is the most difficult path to take. But it’s one that will not only connect you with your soul at a depth you’ve never experienced before, but also it will help inspire your man to be there for you and your vulnerabilities.

See, I believe there are two ways to respond to every event, through love or through fear. And hands down, love is always the better option. Love wins every single time, even though it’s not as easy sometimes.

You’ve already taken the first step, congratulations.  If you want to take the next few steps, then read on and allow me to guide and facilitate your journey to showing up as a high value woman when your man pulls away.

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Then you need to start learning the mindset and the skills of showing up as a high value woman - right now!

As I stated many times now, if you’re still in that phase of your relationship where you’re trying to prove your value to each other… then it’s imperative that you don’t give the impression that you are low value.

That’s like shooting yourself in the foot with a shotgun.

Because most of the time, your man will pick up all the subconscious, under the radar cues and clues as to what kind of woman you are. Our non-verbal communications speak way louder than our words can ever replace.

And so are your non-verbal communications telling him that you are high value and worth his pursuit and commitment?
Look, I don’t mean to put you on the spot here.

I’m emphasizing this because I’ve made so many mistakes in my own life, and it pains me to see others go through similar experiences.

I want to save you some unnecessary suffering, heartaches and lost time.

So if you want to learn more, here’s what I’ve done. I’ve put together a comprehensive special report called… “How to Stay High Value When He Pulls Away”.

It has everything you need to know to deal with when your man pulls away, so that you can ultimately show up as the high value woman that every man dreams about.

Now I must mention, this isn’t for everyone.

I know for a fact, that a certain percentage of women will continue their old patterns when their man pulls away regardless of any new ideas, knowledge or wisdom. Some people are too stuck in their ways.

Some of what I teach may be radical, or unconventional, and perhaps that’s why I have so many women loving what I write and teach, but I understand that it’s not the path for everyone.

You would know in your gut, whether this special report is for you or not.

Here are few things you will learn…

  • Discover how to respond as a high value woman to the 5 common scenarios where men would naturally pull away.

  • Learn how to reconnect with him in a high value way when he eventually comes back to the relationship without causing unnecessary tension or conflict.

  • Discover the 3 low value actions you should never even consider when your man pulls away, and rather what to do instead.

  • Learn how to stay open and access your inner love and inner resources to overcome all the fear, insecurity and neediness, even if you are scared right now.

  • Learn how to respond if he is in crisis, lost his direction or if he’s recently lost his job and his ability to feel like a man.

  • Discover how to respond if he pulled away because he never wanted a relationship in the first place and was just stringing you along.

  • How to respond to him if he pulled away as he is starting to lose some of the initial attraction and doesn’t know what to do.


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So you’re probably wondering… how much do I have to pay to have this…?

Well… how much WOULD you pay so that your man sees you as a high value woman?

What would you give to have your man know in his heart that you respect him, and want the best for him, without adding more pressure to his life?

How much would you pay for knowing with certainty that are always doing the right thing in your relationship because you're showing up as a high value woman?

And how much would all of this mean to you and your life? What kind of negative emotions will you be able to avoid because of this knowledge?

I know this is stupid, but look.

I’ve had celebrities, high end lawyers and doctors pay me over $1,000 an hour for my coaching and advice. (Not to brag here...)

I’ve turned down more interview and consultation offers than I would like to remember.

The truth is… when I send you this special report, it doesn’t cost me very much because it’s a digital delivery. There’s no ink, no paper, no delivery man.

That’s why, I want you to have this special report “How to Stay High Value When He Pulls Away” for just $7.

Look, here’s the thing. I can’t promise you this price will remain tomorrow, or the next day. The nature of internet businesses is that we need to test prices often. So if you also think I’m stupid for making this offer, then take me up on it before it’s truly gone.


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If you think the 1 on 1 coaching might be something for you, then here’s what you have to understand.

If your decision is based upon price, then this will not be the right fit for you. (There are literally thousands upon thousands of coaches out there who would be more suitable for your situation.)

Private coaching with D.Shen & Renee is not cheap for good reasons.

If you are still serious about coaching, then here’s what you need to do…

Choose the option above that includes the coaching, someone on our team will contact you within 24 hours to set up a time so either D.Shen or Renee can sit down and have a chat with you.

If you’re the right fit, then we will work with you to schedule a series of coaching sessions that fits into your busy life.

If you are not the right fit, then the coaching portion of your fee will be refunded to you immediately.

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We only accept private coaching clients on a case per case basis and there is no guarantee that you will be accepted. If you are accepted, you will have the option of continuing the coaching service when it comes to the end of the first month.


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If you’re at all skeptical about this, we understand. You have every right to be.

I’ve seen the garbage that’s being sold out there on the Internet. – Most of it is pure rubbish.

This is different. This is the real deal, no B.S. advice.

And of course, try it out right now risk free. You really have nothing to lose.

Again, thank you for taking the time out of your busy day to learn about this. If you have any questions at all, or any problems, you can contact me via my helpdesk. (Click here for the help desk)

We look forward to hearing all the great results you achieve and also look forward to helping you in your love life for years to come!

Sending you all the love in the world.

D. Shen & Renee Wade

Founders of Shen Wade Media

P.S.  Look, if your gut right now is telling you to give this a go, then do yourself the favor of trusting your gut. After all, your gut instinct has never failed you. Sometimes in order to fly, a small leap of faith is necessary.

P.P.S. Just remember, you will always be protected by my “Raving Fan” guarantee! Try it out for 30 days, give me some feedback, and if you don’t like it for any reason or no particular reason, then just let me know! There’s no obligation for you to stay on the program.


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After reading lots of your e-mails and reading a few of your books, my love life has changed drastically (that’s an understatement)... You, Renee, opened my eyes wide. The information you share is *extremely* valuable even if some of it isn’t exactly easy to hear. Every woman should know about you and the amazing wisdom youhave to offer. All these informative messages have been a true blessing to me.

Thank you a million times!

Eva San Diego

I’m lovin’ this program!

I found that to be very valuable. As there is so much female negative information out there to make you doubt your own instincts. I now know I was right, and more importantly, why.

Thank you for that.


I recently joined the Commitment Control Program and am blown away by its quality!

I have been so impressed by this program that I already joined Understanding Men and ACM. I’ve had a LOT of “Aha” moments!

I’m really enjoying myself and appreciating masculine energy more and more.


Wow!  You nailed it on this one!  This is sooooo me!

I've always been tough on the outside so Noone could see my pain. Everyone thinks I'm the strongest Woman they know and want to b like me. I never realized how much fear and anger and resentment I have been holding in yet projecting out to the world! I will begin working on this immediately!

 Thank you soooo much Renee!

Jackie Stokes

Renee, you are such a genius! You are the positive voice for this type of relationships. You're saving relationships like a relationship hero!

Thank You!


Wow this was such an eye opener! I never realized that this could be damaging to my relations with men until I read this email. I stepped back and really thought about it for a while and all the moments my guy pulled away just clicked! You are really opening my eyes to things I never would have guessed. And every single piece of advice you give, I try out, and it has all worked! I have told tons of my girlfriends about your blog and I’m sure they will get the same results as me. Again, a big thanks for what you do!

P.S. I want to do one of your programs, but I am a broke college student and will have to wait before I can do them all. (sigh) I was wondering which program you would recommend doing first??

Best Wishes,


Thanks so much for your hard work and dedication!!!!

Six months ago I met a man and I instantly felt wonderfully like a girl!!! I was awakened and alive!

At one point I said to him, "you are so male and I'm so glad." It was the only way I could describe that feeling, sensation, and to start embracing and celebrating how I feel around him.

Most recently, he has commented (repeatedly) about how easy it is to be around me. I was tempted to over analyze...lol...and ask for details. Instead, I let his words sink in and realized this: our masculine and feminine energy are in sync! That's how he could best express that sensation. Light bulb!!!

Because of you, I understand myself and my relationships in an authentic, productive, and joyful way!

Thank you!!!!


Hi Renee and David

I've been following you for a while now and have gotten tons of useful information. I have already been through your commitment control program as well.

I have to say though, your blog posts and your paid content has been totally transformational in my life. I've been through a tough divorce and sometimes it's hard to make sense of anything!

Your stuff has helped a lot but I still feel like there's a lot more for me to learn. Im looking for what else I can do to really get it. So far you've helped a whole heap.

Thanks for doing what you do!

Dottie W
Dottie W

Hey Renee, it's Barbra I really want to say thank you for all the great information.

It has had a great impact on how I saw myself and helped in changing both my self esteem and feminine ways. Thank you once again. Have a blessed day!


You and David had given me so much value I felt I wanted to purchase it. The book is sublime as usual, and calms me during my fears. Thanks for your writing & keep up the great work.

Anna C.

Wow this was such an eye opener! I never realized that this could be damaging to my relations with men until I read this email. I stepped back and really thought about it for a while and all the moments my guy pulled away just clicked!

You are really opening my eyes to things I never would have guessed. And every single piece of advice you give, I try out, and it has all worked! I have told tons of my girlfriends about your blog and I’m sure they will get the same results as me 🙂

Again, a big thanks for what you do!


Renee, I want to let you know that your emails have really helped me to understand men so much better... You are a blessing, Renee.

Keep doing what you are doing. A lot of women can learn from you. And I thoroughly enjoy reading your emails. Thank you so much.


Hi Renee

I appreciate all the emails you have sent to me. They are really really informative,

Thanks a million. I have been applying your advice to me marriage and it is really, really working. You really know what you are talking about.

I have been sharing your information with my sisters.

Your counsel is golden. I never read everything about relationships that is so real.

May God bless you

Glenette Samuel

Hi David & Renee

All the material has been really surprising so far in terms of effectiveness… I have always felt attractive and confident, but now I’m the bomb!

My man better snap me up!

The pebbles seemed bizarre, but by making them a version of my own… Wow! They really work!!?

Look forward to more from you two!

Wishing you a growing beautiful relationship .

Stephanie Levin

Hello Renee,

I can only imagine how busy you have been with your beautiful family and many projects, but I just wanted to say it's awesome seeing you more frequently in my inbox.  I have read your blog and email since 2010, and I am also subscribed to attraction control and commitment control.  The amount of wisdom and sincerity you have taught me over the years is priceless and I cannot thank you enough for your loving nature and endless time that you and your husband devote to the 'thefemininewoman.com'

You inspire women daily, give such genuine and life altering advice, and really bring out the feminine woman in all of us (and it's such a freeing and beautiful way to live).  Cant thank you enough!!  :))


Hello Renee! This is no request. Just a thank-you. I didn't see an e-mail address, so I decided to contact you this way.

I just want to say that I have become a big fan of your work. I am completely hooked on reading all the insightful advice you provide.

I am constantly searching for answers when it comes to men and relationships, and as you had mentioned once, it's SO HARD to find truth in an ocean of contradicting opinions.

I feel touched by the insight you have gained over the years. Thanks for being an inspiration, and for helping me cultivate the feminine goddess inside me...that has always been inside me. Much love!


Good day Renee, I downloaded the book you recommended but it fails to open... I love reading your advice, so genuine an original, I have made mistakes that u adviced on, now I know what to do...I mainly want to get my daughters fathers attraction again an get back together, with this I'm certain it will help.

Thank you

Lots of love

Justine S.

Hi Renee and David

I love your stuff. Ive been following you for a while now and have gotten tons of useful information. I went through your commitment control program and the ACM subscription as well. I have to say though, your blog posts and programs have been very helpful.

Thanks a million.

Lisa Love
Lisa Love

LOVE the new article Renee! I get so excited when I see a new article in my inbox, I drop everything, grab a cup of tea and I don't move until I've read it all.

I'm only 18 and I accidentally subscribed to your articles a few years ago somehow (huge blessing). I just wanted to say your wise words have completely changed my life and not a day goes by where I don't use something I've learned from you. You help me know myself better.

I will take what I have learned from the feminine woman with me for the rest of my life. I am eternally grateful for the hard work and time you put into this. Lots of love


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