Brand New Class (Free)

Brand New Class (Free)

Discover how you can use the dark feminine art of “High Value Banter” to weed out the toxic men, the egotistical narcissists, the players and the men with hidden low self-esteem… And at the same time create real life romantic tension and emotional attraction with high value high esteemed men.



Leave me a comment below and share with us what specifically you would like to learn more about when it comes to attracting high value men using the art of banter...

118 Comments

  • Sharon

    Reply Reply June 18, 2019

    I have observed how men communicate with one another and connect with each other! It is fun to watch and its both playful and harsh at the same time! Learning more about how men are wired sounds like a blast! I am in!

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Fantastic! 🙂

  • sonia

    Reply Reply June 18, 2019

    conversations that build emotional connection and emotional connection. I have an abrasive critical blame type of relationship with my brother. My father was distant and stingy value taker who envied women who are attractive and sexy

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Then perhaps you will have to look at your own patterns with men first and go from there…

      • Jaime

        Reply Reply March 12, 2020

        Hi David, I’d like to get some of those ice breakers you spoke up!

        Thank you for the great information!
        Cheers! 🙂

  • Ann

    Reply Reply June 19, 2019

    Great info

  • Judy

    Reply Reply June 19, 2019

    This is amazing info, thank you. I’m wondering if this is okay to do with clients? I’m a hairdresser and work primarily with a male clientele. Would this be considered rude if I banter with clients? I’m thinking it could elicit better tips if they’re having fun with me as I cut their hair…but it’s also kind of scary because I would hate to offend a client.

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      You’re welcome Judy. Of course this is OK to do with clients. I actually coached a woman years and years ago who happened to be a hairdresser, and she worked on this type of banter with her clients. As long as you know and can sense people’s boundaries, then I think it would make the whole experience much richer and more exciting than just getting their hair done. As a man, haircuts can be rather mundane and boring.
      The thing here is that if you are attuned to men’s reactions, and you never actually mean to offend, then there’s nothing to worry about. Sometimes offending someone accidentally brings you closer to that person in the end, then never offending them in the first place.

  • Lisa Bell

    Reply Reply June 21, 2019

    Loved this class! I am going to put it to use immediately. Need help to lean in with a man that continues to contact me for the last year, but never asks me out. We flirt and he tells me how he wants to see me then says he is dating someone and has one foot in and one foot out. WTF?

    • Brenda Brewer

      Reply Reply June 24, 2019

      Why would you want to pursue something with a man who treats you that way? Why don’t you use what you learned here and choose to use it on someone worth your time?

      • Rossalyn Lopez

        Reply Reply March 11, 2020

        Yes I’d like some high value ice breakers

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Great. The more you start to use High Value Banter, the more you will discover the true power of it. The wrong types of men will weed themselves out, and help you connect deeper with the right ones.

  • Brenda Brewer

    Reply Reply June 24, 2019

    This is the best thing you have ever done, in my opinion!

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Haha, thank you Brenda! 🙂
      It only gets better from here…

    • Louise

      Reply Reply November 20, 2020

      Hi, I’d love to access the high value ice breakers please, but the link you have posted takes me to open messenger which I don’t have. Can I access it another way?

  • Jo

    Reply Reply June 24, 2019

    I’d love to have tips for high value banter in real life convos too, not just for creating attraction in online convos
    Interested!

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Have you looked into my Attraction Pebbles series? They were designed exactly for real life situations.

    • Anita

      Reply Reply August 18, 2020

      Me tooo! This is so amazing 😍

  • Angela

    Reply Reply June 25, 2019

    I wish you’d post transcripts. Video not always convenient or practical

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Perhaps I could get that organised for you…

  • Karen

    Reply Reply June 26, 2019

    Hi, I’m karen and I’m on different dating Apps since about one and a half years.I’m living in Shanghai and One problem is that I hardly match with men living here as well,most of them are on business trip.It happened couple of times that guys I’m talking to starting to ghost me after a short time,happy for any advice
    Thanks
    Karen

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Good question Karen. It’s not always easy in places like Shanghai. It’s possible that they would have a different online dating culture over there. (I’d imagine that they would have their own Chinese version of dating apps, if Wechat doesn’t cover that already.) So that leaves basically travellers and expats using the popular western dating apps. That being said, the same rules still apply. If you are able to put together a “unicorn” profile that is high value and interesting, and if you’re able to generate enough romantic tension and emotional attraction, then where you are in the world shouldn’t matter.

    • MC

      Reply Reply May 2, 2020

      Hi David, could you please tell an example of chasing a man? I’m clear on the 3 rules for high value banter, but what would be the opposite so we avoid doing that…

      • D. Shen

        Reply Reply November 9, 2020

        Chasing a man means to always be asking for his attention, approval and even love. It can come in the form of you initiating way more than he does, it can come in the form of you expressing your interest way more than he is.

        Overall, chasing is uncalibrated and a value taking behaviour.

  • Patty

    Reply Reply June 27, 2019

    I grew up with boys! I enjoy banter and would like more information on this.

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 29, 2019

      How did you enjoy the content of the class?

      • Anita

        Reply Reply August 18, 2020

        I really enjoyed the class 100%thank you so much!

        • D. Shen

          Reply Reply November 9, 2020

          You’re welcome! 🙂

  • Mgeni Aisha

    Reply Reply June 27, 2019

    Hi David and Renee
    Thank you so much for the wonderful information. Everything you post is a very huge eye opener. I truly appreciate. Though I’d love to point out that I prefer reading so much than watching videos. Nonetheless am an avid fan of yours and since I stumbled onto your post, my life has changed significantly.
    Your information applies not only to dating but also to other avenues in life. I can’t thank you enough. In Swahili, we say Asante Sana😍 God bless you tremendously 💖

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 29, 2019

      You’re welcome. Asante Sana to you too.

  • Jenny

    Reply Reply June 27, 2019

    Hi, been playing along with high value banters, still learning.

    Something I have notice: when the men plays along, banters back – Oh boy does the conversation flow much better, feels alive, fun and connected.

    In contrast to those endless of boring conversations I use to have “what are you doing, how are you?” Day in and day out. I was feeling more and more burnt out and bored to death by online dating.

    Now…what a different.

    Got a wonderfull date with a man that I used a lot of banters on, we got soo darn silly and I had a blast. So on the date, we was like old time friends, felt great meeting him and the time just past without none of us notice

    Stil got a long way to go, still learning. Sometimes I have a hard time come up with anything, sometimes I just come up with something teasing, mor off a push then pull. But doing it more and more, with friends too.

    Anyway, big thanks

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 29, 2019

      Oh BOY yes the conversations do flow better, and you feel much more connected! Great to hear how it felt like seeing an old friend, that in itself is a huge game changer!

  • Ih

    Reply Reply June 28, 2019

    Hi! Id love a transpcript as well!!

  • Lia

    Reply Reply June 28, 2019

    Thank you so very much for such a wonderful class! I love your posts and videos.
    In this class you mentioned to ask in comments about high-value icebreakers. What icebreakers can you recommend?
    Thank you!

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 29, 2019

      Of course Lia. Just go to http://www.HighValueIcebreaker.com and press the get started button. My chatbot in Facebook Messenger will privately and securely deliver my best high value icebreakers! 🙂

  • Sheri

    Reply Reply June 28, 2019

    David thanks so much for this free lesson and I feel I learned a lot but it got me thinking. I started thinking back to my younger days when according to you and your lesson I was doing things pretty well getting the guy interested but I am wondering if i did it too well or what went wrong beyond that. Meaning I could hook a guy but never make it turn into something more. I wonder if you might have some ideas for why that would happen. I definitely don’t want it to happen anymore because at 48 I really want that committed relationship.

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 29, 2019

      Well, there’s a huge difference between a man showing signs of interest vs signs of commitment. (That’s a huge journey in itself) Getting interest is just a start, the next step is to build on that emotional attraction and connection, deepen the trust and bond as well as becoming his one and only. (If you haven’t gotten the DVD from Renee, it’s a good one… http://www.BHOODVD.com)

      We talk a lot more about that commitment journey in some of our other articles, emails and courses (Commitment Control 2) etc.

  • Michelle

    Reply Reply June 29, 2019

    I’d love to have the icebreakers you mentioned!

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 29, 2019

      Just go to http://www.HighValueIcebreaker.com and press the get started button. My chatbot in Facebook Messenger will privately and securely deliver my best high value icebreakers! 🙂

  • Sarah

    Reply Reply June 29, 2019

    Thank you for this! This was fantastic. It made so much sense. I think it will be so much easier to stay relaxed and self possessed now that I know this. Thanks again!

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply July 5, 2019

      You’re welcome!

  • Yana

    Reply Reply June 30, 2019

    Dr. Shein, thank you for your input and bringing a new perspective to online dating. I’m new to this web-world;) I’ve been on Tinder almost a month & Bumble for 5 weeks. The last one is not so popular in Russia:( I’m putting to practice your lines (hv icebreakers, pull&push lines). It’s interesting to see the responses& interactions. But somehow the chat doesn’t go further then for 2 days. Another thing, exidently I put nick name instead of my real name on profile. As a result, may be 1 out of 10 matches bothered to ask “what is your real name?” Sometimes I take the road asking back or in the beginning of chat: is your second name Handsome/Mr. Cool, etc? Do they care about the name?

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply July 5, 2019

      I think a lot of the time, men are careful of scams, therefore they want to know that at least you are a real person and you are who you say you are.

  • Cheryl

    Reply Reply July 2, 2019

    Do u have any books. I really don’t like the videos.

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply July 5, 2019

      Would you like a transcript?

      • Ruby

        Reply Reply November 20, 2019

        I would love a transcript too please and thank you!!

  • Virginia Snape

    Reply Reply July 5, 2019

    I met my man on Tinder… I had just separated from a 32 year domestic abusive marriage and joined Tinder for a bit if fun and intrigue. I was brought up with FIVE brothers and have always “held my own” in regards to the masculine banter. In fact…. I thrived on it, and even prefer male companionship over female … feeling very exhilarated after a good session of banter with men. I have always managed to remain true to my feline/femine self and have never been considered a tomboy even though I preferred male company

    My new partner is very good at banter, and he met his match in me which totally surprised him… (i still surprise him ) … we still push and pull after 18 months of living together… and yes, sometimes we can go too far, but we both recognise that instantly and we ground each other with reassurance every time … oops… did I really say that??? Yup… you did!!! If we don’t laugh about it, then we know it’s a topic to nut out and grow from

    Our coffee date ended up with me staying with him for 17 days (We lived 3.5 hours away and he picked me up in His truck at a meeting point… I had done my homework on him) … I made sure that I was comfortable with him before we actually met,. After being in a marriage with a narcissist and after reading and researching all I could on NPD I was very aware of red flags and what to look out for

    But suffice to say, we both came away from our online dating chats with the biggest smiles on our faces …. he made me laugh, and I made him curious. In the end he said… I miss you, and I haven’t even met you yet! It was after that comment where I said…. okay, let’s do this… let’s wing it … why the he’ll not.

    Banter is fun … it works, and it still a very big part if our relationship

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply July 5, 2019

      Great story Virginia! Thanks for sharing. (Wow, coffee date turned into a 17 day stay!)
      And yes, you’re right! Banter is something that should always be a big part of any intimate relationship long term.

  • Michelle

    Reply Reply July 7, 2019

    Hi David,

    I took this class because I was interested to see if I could learn something to assist me in communicating with my boyfriend via text. Our text communication has gotten a bit boring. I started being playful with him text and it worked immediately. I felt an instant shift. Still need to try the push and pull. Love the advice on leaning back. When I first began my journey of learning about relationship I found Rori Raye early on she has some good advice but the leaning back never worked for me now I know why. Thanks so much!

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 14, 2019

      You’re very welcome Michelle!

  • DeAnn Pryor

    Reply Reply July 10, 2019

    I need icebreakers!

    And more explanation on push and pull for sure!
    Thanks!

  • Sharon Dalessio

    Reply Reply July 15, 2019

    I tried the flirty banter. I had them eating out of my hands.

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 14, 2019

      Fantastic!

  • Kate Black

    Reply Reply July 27, 2019

    Yes please enroll me into the High Value Profile and Banter

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 14, 2019

      Welcome aboard.

      • Jen

        Reply Reply August 12, 2020

        Can you use high value banter in sports related? I don’t know anything about sports. My dad and brother were not interested in any sports, games etc. But the guys ive liked including my ex husband are usually into sports like the Patriots 😂 I don’t know why I’m attracted to them 🤣!! I Would like to banter but in a high value way. Not making fun of them, or disrespectful, but just make it fun.

        • D. Shen

          Reply Reply November 9, 2020

          Absolutely you can use banter in sports related contexts. The world is really your oyster. Go out there, play with it and have some fun.

  • Kate Black

    Reply Reply July 27, 2019

    I’m convinced that all you say is true. I simply don’t know the mechanics of how to banter. I was widowed years ago and after finishing raising my kids, I’m stepping out to date. I’m finding the love bombing thing happening, and because I don’t fall for it, I walk away from so many. Not sure if I’m missing out on some gems that derailed bc I don’t know how to banter. My late husband was the funny one – I was his straight man so to say. He made everyone laugh. I thrived on that. Just don’t know how to carry the ball on it.

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 9, 2020

      The most important thing is for you to go out there and test it out.
      Don’t worry about mechanics, just worry about getting the ball rolling.

  • PeaceDancer

    Reply Reply July 27, 2019

    Yes, I would like some high level ice breakers, very much!.

  • Enny

    Reply Reply July 28, 2019

    This kind of banter is exactly what brought me and my boyfriend together. He said that he loves me for my ability to outwit him and keep him on his toes. Before that we were friends and here’s my favorite example. I told him that I dreamed of him and this is what followed:
    He: I wonder what I sounded like in your dream compared with how my voice sounds in real.
    Me: Why would you sound different than in that video you once shared with me? It’s not like I never heard your voice.
    He: Oh God, that was buried so deep in my mind, I completely forgot about it!
    Me: Happens when you get old. (He often forgets things so I’m teasing him)
    He: That gives you something you look forward to. I’m the physical manifestation of what you’ll look like in two years.
    Me: I’ll never have a grey beard… hopefully… (He has a couple of grey beard hairs)
    He: Never say never. 😛
    Me: >.< (In this part I was playfully acting like I was not happy)
    He: I can see you like an old hairy Italian grandma who overfeeds her grandkids. Aaaaaand this is probably the part I'll be glared to death. XD
    Me: LOL. Well, at least they will look like their grandpa if I overfeed them. <.< (He is fat so I used that to tease him back, but also in the same sentence I'm implying that we will have grandchildren which shows that I'm interested in him)
    He: LMFAO! Or you are just perfect! Finally someone who can give and take… So much fun hehehe
    Me: 😛

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 14, 2019

      Great to hear Enny. As I always say… banter is the precursor to attraction! 🙂

  • Lori

    Reply Reply August 1, 2019

    DavidShen, I noticed you were drinking bourban in that class. Am I allowed?

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 14, 2019

      Where did you see me drink bourbon? I thought I was drinking tea… but if you ever see me drink bourbon, then yes, you are allowed. :p

  • Sarah

    Reply Reply August 25, 2019

    Great content thank you. You are both amazing. You should charge for these videos, a small amount for each one as we are getting great value from them

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 14, 2019

      Thanks Sarah. It’s great to know you’re getting great value!

  • T.H

    Reply Reply August 25, 2019

    I definitely want to join your High Value Banter Class as an Early Bird.
    thank you for all your incredible advice!!

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 14, 2019

      You’re very welcome.

  • B

    Reply Reply August 25, 2019

    D,
    What if one does not do online dating? Thanks

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 14, 2019

      Good question. It is absolutely still a good idea to understand banter and know how to use it appropriately.

      After all, banter is the precursor to attraction.

  • Teri

    Reply Reply August 27, 2019

    I missed your class on building a high value profile and high value banter. When will you be offering it again? I’ve just started listening to your classes and signed up on your Facebook. I am finding the content very helpful entertaining and something I want to use as my approach has been very lackluster over the years and created nothing but frustration. Looking forward to hearing so much more from you and helping myself grow.

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 14, 2019

      No problems. I’ll make sure you get a chance to enrol! 🙂

  • Lynne

    Reply Reply September 11, 2019

    I would like more information about joining your class to learn more about how to be high value even when online dating

  • Lynne

    Reply Reply September 11, 2019

    I would also like to know some ice breakers for women to use when meeting a guy….Things she should and can say to him

  • Risa

    Reply Reply October 27, 2019

    I would like examples of playful push pull conversations and some high value Icebreakers.

  • Cassie Bone

    Reply Reply November 19, 2019

    I need more push and pull examples. Actually I need all of it

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 9, 2020

      There are many many examples within my High Value Profile & Banter course as well as our Attraction Pebbles course.

  • Sarah j

    Reply Reply November 20, 2019

    Would love more examples like a script to start me off

  • Lize Barkhuysen

    Reply Reply November 25, 2019

    Do you have a written piece? I prefer reading. If you don’t mind..although this is good because I get the tones etc…
    .

  • Lize Barkhuysen

    Reply Reply November 25, 2019

    My guy is more sensitive, he responds when I appreciate him. Every time I used offence he was backing off…He is so scared to reach out….So I tease him on that…I’d say just imagine reaching out to your 80 year old love of your life and they are toothless. etc

  • Lize Barkhuysen

    Reply Reply November 25, 2019

    Ice breakers please….

    I have known this guy for 5 years and I know it sounds impossible but he is only now happy that I am appreciative enough…That is how I read it and he wants assurance that I really like him… So I told him in a way which I felt safe with… then he becomes silent for 2 days and react with more allure ….on face to face long distance…

    Icebreakers or alluring interactions online…as he is speaking to me in group form… He puts in lots of effort to do what I like, grow a beard, wakes up at sunrise on Sundays to make a Fb live for me because I like sunrises etc…He often repeats what I have said. A lot of girls like him…

  • Lize Barkhuysen

    Reply Reply November 25, 2019

    Thank you, thank you. Your info is always so Informative and life changing…

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 9, 2020

      Thanks! 🙂

  • Kay

    Reply Reply January 21, 2020

    Thank you so much, so interesting.looking forward to trying this out for myself

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply February 18, 2020

      Love to hear your experiences and everything you learn in the process!

  • Christina

    Reply Reply February 17, 2020

    I have a crush on a man who I saw on instagram. I actually bumped into him at work — to my surprise he found me attractive and tried to talk to me several times but I shut down. With his last attempt he actually went up to me and asked me a question. I was unable to answer him. I froze and could not say a word. I made an attempt to talk to him but again was unable to express myself to him.

    I know it seemed like to him I rejected him. After the me “rejecting” him- he was transferred to another state and I haven’t seen him over 2 years now. I thought that I was over him but I heard that he might be moving back to town and I still find him attractive. I want to get his attention and establish an emotional attraction and emotional connection.

    Can I use High Value Banter with face to face?

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply February 18, 2020

      Of course you can use this face to face! It can be somewhat easier to do face to face as you’re able to get instant feedback and calibrate your approach depending his reactions.

  • Christina

    Reply Reply February 17, 2020

    What is leaning back?

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply February 18, 2020

      If you haven’t heard of it, then that’s probably a good thing. 🙂

  • Jaime

    Reply Reply March 12, 2020

    Hi David, I’d like to get some of those ice breakers you spoke up!

    Thank you for the great information!
    Cheers! 🙂

  • Mell

    Reply Reply May 28, 2020

    Hi David. Thanks for this incredibly informative video. I’ll be making sure to put it into good use.
    I’ve been hooked on this guy for like 2 years, I know it might sound stupid or crazy (hey, we all have issues 🤷🏻‍♀️😁) but we have never met in real life, he lives in a different country and no he’s not some Hollywood star but he’s made a name for himself in the music business (we’re talking 30-40k Instagram followers here, nothing too big or scary). I’m planning on moving to the US to do music myself (girls are banned from singing in Iran, so, yikes 🙄) and I’m really hoping to at least have a chance with him.
    I know Instagram and Facebook aren’t dating apps or anything, and he might be already dating someone (tho even if he is, it is it’s not serious enough to change his FB relationship status 😜) but, with all that, do you think there is ANY way for me to try and show up on his radar at least? Before I’ve actually made it myself in the music industry?
    I’d love some feedback on this. And thanks in advance, regardless of whether or not you will reply.
    Cheers! 😇
    PS: Uhhh…don’t call me out on my daddy issues plz but he’s 14 years older than me 😅

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 3, 2020

      Thanks Mell for posting this question in our Facebook group. And I hope our answers made sense.

  • Sarah Lange

    Reply Reply July 10, 2020

    What can I do so I don’t attract narcissistic men?

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 9, 2020

      1) Use banter to weed them out. Test, test and test.
      2) Learn about attachment styles.
      3) Cultivate secure attachment without yourself first.

  • Alice Sullivan

    Reply Reply July 14, 2020

    I’d like to thank you first for your post. I hope to learn a lot from you. I have only attracted bad men to me. I spent 9 years with a narcissist. I have never really had many relationships in my life. So everything is new to me. I am looking to find a good man, that will make me his number one. I do hope to learn which are good and weed out the bad. When I turned over the home we got together, he kicked me out to freely seek other women. I found out his true intentions. It hurt really hard. I am still open to one day find someone. Looking for is going to be hard, seeing how I do not want to fall into the same relationships. I do hope your class is able to walk me through how to tell and how to build myself up to have a better outcome. At this time being taken for everything I had, and gave. It will take me time to save up to get back on my feet. I have down loaded your post to when I am able I will be able to afford the classes. I would like to see all your classes. Knowledge is golden. I am not shy, but I am scared. Thank you for being real. Thank you.

  • Dawn

    Reply Reply August 12, 2020

    Hi David. I’m 60 and have never talked bad to a guy. I no longer date online or long distance because of being hurt. I do talk to a lot of guys online. but iv never talked down to them.i don’t know how or even were to start.in on SSI so I can’t afford to join your other classes. but could you please let me know how to talk like that without making them feel bad.? or how to brack the ice with them.I’m told so many things.thay seen to always want to talk about sex.how do I stop them without seeming mean. I would like to meet my best friend and my last partner in life ps. I’m a minister.

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 9, 2020

      Oh this is certainly NOT talking down to them. It’s about getting in touch with a deeper more playful part of yourself. Your intent matters and your intent should never be to hurt someone or to put them down.
      See here’s something you need to understand Dawn… you will never create and cultivate a strong relationship without emotional attraction and emotional connection. And you will never be able to establish the emotional attraction and emotional connection required without playfulness.
      I hope that made sense to you.

  • Dorine

    Reply Reply September 7, 2020

    Thank you for your interesting class. I’m married for 16 years now and I like this a lot. I’m inspired to banter with my husband.

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 9, 2020

      Great to hear Dorine. I’m sure it will add a whole new dimension to your marriage!

    • Nes

      Reply Reply January 10, 2021

      To complement the question I asked above, let me try to be more specific with examples.
      Ex1: boyfriend writes to me (before seeing each over after 2 weeks apart for Christmas):”have you put on some weight? Otherwise we’re gonna have to exercise when you come back”.
      Ex 2: same guy says to me after i refer to an important value in my family: “yes, I bet your family want to get rid of you” (referring to my age)
      Ex 3: male cousin says to me : “ hey where have you been: Nobody can see you in the city. You’re so ungrateful!”. After I ignore or answer that I don’t appreciate being greeted this way, he replies: “oh you’re so sensitive. Have you lost your sense of humour.”
      Is this supposed to be back-handed compliments (like in the case of my cousin who meant he missed me but instead chose another way to say so) or is this passive-aggressive?

  • Joan

    Reply Reply November 9, 2020

    I have followed all links but there is no class? It all. Links to clients feedback?

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply November 9, 2020

      Is the video not working for you? It’s the first thing on this page.

  • Ailen B.

    Reply Reply December 22, 2020

    D. Shen!
    Thank you for posting this video for free! But I have a big problem, I’m not English native speaker and I find it difficult to listen videos in English. Is there a transcript you can handle me?
    Banter skill seems really helpful, I’d greatfully appreciate it! ^_^

    Ailén B.

  • Nes

    Reply Reply January 10, 2021

    Great content… I had no idea I would have to fight the uncomfortable feeling of offending someone. That was eye-opening 😳
    So.. double the Playfulness and remember the feeling of a little girl after committing a mischief: that one hit home 😃 Many thanks !
    I have a question though: how does it work in reverse mode ? I mean if I’m poking fun at him, and he’s then poking fun at me, “negging me” or making back-handed compliments… I’m not sure what’s the boundary is between a man trying to undermine my confidence, disguised despise or a genuine act of flirting… maybe it’s because of attachment style or past abuse: it’s hard to trust the intent. I really have to fight hard against in order not to not let my quick temper surface and play it cool (I become stiff).

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