Brand New Class (Free)

Brand New Class (Free)

Discover the 3 rules for "High Value Banter" to help you create romantic tension and emotional attraction with men online and take you from being just another awkward stranger to the most interesting, mysterious and exciting woman he has ever spoken to.


What will happen when you use High Value Banter? +

Here is exactly what will happen when you start using High Value Banter…

Number 1, you’ll start to have a lot more exciting conversations, that’s for sure! You’ll start to notice that men will enjoy speaking to you, and want to continue the conversation momentum with you… (Because it’s actually fun to speak to you unlike the 95% of women out there.)

Number 2, you’ll find it so easy to weed out the men who aren’t right for you because they cannot and will not respond appropriately to your banter. Those men are a No-No! If they don’t play along with you, it’s an absolute NO.

See, High Value Banter is also the BEST way to filter out men who aren’t worth your time. Most of the time, they just eliminate themselves.

And number 3, you will probably get asked out a lot more by men. That’s just how it is, and that’s just how men respond to this type of banter.

So yes, High Value Banter will get you asked out more than you can ever imagine in your wildest dreams.

Just have a look at what these women experience once they started implementing High Value Banter…

Does High Value Banter work on every single man? +

Absolutely not. (And thank God.)

Some men may have never had this type of playful interaction before and they won’t know what to do.  The men who have been abused all their lives may even find this intimidating. Some jaded men may think you’re playing “mind games”.

This High Value Banter that I teach, may even throw some men off their own “game”. And frankly some men are too far “gone”. (…They’re dead inside.)

Would you really want to have a relationship with someone who’s dead inside?

Here’s something important to understand.

Playfulness is the precursor for any level of emotional attraction. In other words, you need to have some levels of playfulness in order for any emotional attraction to be created and felt.

Very often, when you don’t feel a spark with someone, the biggest thing missing is that playfulness. (Sometimes it’s easy to get nervous, awkward and tense around someone new, especially for you as a woman as safety can be a huge factor there.)

What I truly love about High Value Banter is that if you do it right, it will naturally help you filter out the wrong types of men. All you have to do is be attuned to how they respond to your High Value Banter.

I don’t care how tall dark and Jason Momoa looking a man is, if he doesn’t respond well to your High Value Banter, then that’s a really bad sign.

It could mean that he’s really not attuned to what you’re saying. It could mean that he’s running his own “script” to try to “pick you up”. It could mean that he’s secretly a serial killer looking for easy prey. (Possible I guess.)

Any man who values the connection and attraction between you and him, will WANT to play along with the banter that you lead with. They may not have the right “comebacks”, or be as smart in their responses, but they would want to play along.

That’s what you’re looking for.

Because emotional attraction is the most important element in the whole universe. Well, at least in the universe of intimate relationships. Without that emotional chemistry, romantic relationships would never form, ever.

And so the very first step to that process of a romantic relationship is playfulness. Playfulness should be the very first filter that men have to pass through, not their looks, their occupation, status, etc.

(Ok, looks may score extra points if it was Jason Momoa…)   

So thank GOD that not every man will respond positively to your High Value Banter.

What if I don’t feel comfortable using sarcasm? +

What if I don’t feel comfortable using sarcasm?

So you’re a serious one huh! 😛

Ok, so here’s the deal. None of what I’m teaching designed to come across as sarcasm at all. This is entirely high value and playful banter.

So here’s the difference.

Sarcasm in itself carries the connotation and intent to mock or convey contempt.

Where as playful banter carries the intent to tease and be playful. They are very different in nature. (Of course it does take practice to thoroughly understand the finer distinctions between the two.)

The point here is, if you’re trying to tease. And as such, you have to be attuned to where the other person is emotionally. The less attuned you are, the less present you are, the worst it will come across.

The reason why playfulness is so important is because it’s a precursor to emotional attraction. (Of course true emotional attraction won’t ever develop if one or both individuals are not present or attuned to each other anyways.)

So if you don’t feel comfortable with this type of playful banter, then it’s imperative that you start practicing it, and over time you will rediscover that playful side of you. (Thank me later.)

Will you make some mistakes along the way, hell yeah. But will those mistakes help you become more attuned in the future? Absolutely.

I can tell you with absolute confidence that there’s literally no way around this process. So be bold, start practicing High Value Banter, and allow yourself to enjoy the process. (…And I can promise you, you will find your groove very soon.)


Leave me a comment below and share with us what specifically you would like to learn more about when it comes to attracting high value men through the platform of online dating.

54 Comments

  • Sharon

    Reply Reply June 18, 2019

    I have observed how men communicate with one another and connect with each other! It is fun to watch and its both playful and harsh at the same time! Learning more about how men are wired sounds like a blast! I am in!

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Fantastic! 🙂

  • sonia

    Reply Reply June 18, 2019

    conversations that build emotional connection and emotional connection. I have an abrasive critical blame type of relationship with my brother. My father was distant and stingy value taker who envied women who are attractive and sexy

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Then perhaps you will have to look at your own patterns with men first and go from there…

  • Ann

    Reply Reply June 19, 2019

    Great info

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Cheers!

  • Judy

    Reply Reply June 19, 2019

    This is amazing info, thank you. I’m wondering if this is okay to do with clients? I’m a hairdresser and work primarily with a male clientele. Would this be considered rude if I banter with clients? I’m thinking it could elicit better tips if they’re having fun with me as I cut their hair…but it’s also kind of scary because I would hate to offend a client.

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      You’re welcome Judy. Of course this is OK to do with clients. I actually coached a woman years and years ago who happened to be a hairdresser, and she worked on this type of banter with her clients. As long as you know and can sense people’s boundaries, then I think it would make the whole experience much richer and more exciting than just getting their hair done. As a man, haircuts can be rather mundane and boring.
      The thing here is that if you are attuned to men’s reactions, and you never actually mean to offend, then there’s nothing to worry about. Sometimes offending someone accidentally brings you closer to that person in the end, then never offending them in the first place.

  • Lisa Bell

    Reply Reply June 21, 2019

    Loved this class! I am going to put it to use immediately. Need help to lean in with a man that continues to contact me for the last year, but never asks me out. We flirt and he tells me how he wants to see me then says he is dating someone and has one foot in and one foot out. WTF?

    • Brenda Brewer

      Reply Reply June 24, 2019

      Why would you want to pursue something with a man who treats you that way? Why don’t you use what you learned here and choose to use it on someone worth your time?

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Great. The more you start to use High Value Banter, the more you will discover the true power of it. The wrong types of men will weed themselves out, and help you connect deeper with the right ones.

  • Brenda Brewer

    Reply Reply June 24, 2019

    This is the best thing you have ever done, in my opinion!

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Haha, thank you Brenda! 🙂
      It only gets better from here…

  • Jo

    Reply Reply June 24, 2019

    I’d love to have tips for high value banter in real life convos too, not just for creating attraction in online convos
    Interested!

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Have you looked into my Attraction Pebbles series? They were designed exactly for real life situations.

  • Angela

    Reply Reply June 25, 2019

    I wish you’d post transcripts. Video not always convenient or practical

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Perhaps I could get that organised for you…

  • Karen

    Reply Reply June 26, 2019

    Hi, I’m karen and I’m on different dating Apps since about one and a half years.I’m living in Shanghai and One problem is that I hardly match with men living here as well,most of them are on business trip.It happened couple of times that guys I’m talking to starting to ghost me after a short time,happy for any advice
    Thanks
    Karen

    • DavidShen

      Reply Reply June 27, 2019

      Good question Karen. It’s not always easy in places like Shanghai. It’s possible that they would have a different online dating culture over there. (I’d imagine that they would have their own Chinese version of dating apps, if Wechat doesn’t cover that already.) So that leaves basically travellers and expats using the popular western dating apps. That being said, the same rules still apply. If you are able to put together a “unicorn” profile that is high value and interesting, and if you’re able to generate enough romantic tension and emotional attraction, then where you are in the world shouldn’t matter.

  • Patty

    Reply Reply June 27, 2019

    I grew up with boys! I enjoy banter and would like more information on this.

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 29, 2019

      How did you enjoy the content of the class?

  • Mgeni Aisha

    Reply Reply June 27, 2019

    Hi David and Renee
    Thank you so much for the wonderful information. Everything you post is a very huge eye opener. I truly appreciate. Though I’d love to point out that I prefer reading so much than watching videos. Nonetheless am an avid fan of yours and since I stumbled onto your post, my life has changed significantly.
    Your information applies not only to dating but also to other avenues in life. I can’t thank you enough. In Swahili, we say Asante Sana😍 God bless you tremendously 💖

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 29, 2019

      You’re welcome. Asante Sana to you too.

  • Jenny

    Reply Reply June 27, 2019

    Hi, been playing along with high value banters, still learning.

    Something I have notice: when the men plays along, banters back – Oh boy does the conversation flow much better, feels alive, fun and connected.

    In contrast to those endless of boring conversations I use to have “what are you doing, how are you?” Day in and day out. I was feeling more and more burnt out and bored to death by online dating.

    Now…what a different.

    Got a wonderfull date with a man that I used a lot of banters on, we got soo darn silly and I had a blast. So on the date, we was like old time friends, felt great meeting him and the time just past without none of us notice

    Stil got a long way to go, still learning. Sometimes I have a hard time come up with anything, sometimes I just come up with something teasing, mor off a push then pull. But doing it more and more, with friends too.

    Anyway, big thanks

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 29, 2019

      Oh BOY yes the conversations do flow better, and you feel much more connected! Great to hear how it felt like seeing an old friend, that in itself is a huge game changer!

  • Ih

    Reply Reply June 28, 2019

    Hi! Id love a transpcript as well!!

  • Lia

    Reply Reply June 28, 2019

    Thank you so very much for such a wonderful class! I love your posts and videos.
    In this class you mentioned to ask in comments about high-value icebreakers. What icebreakers can you recommend?
    Thank you!

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 29, 2019

      Of course Lia. Just go to http://www.HighValueIcebreaker.com and press the get started button. My chatbot in Facebook Messenger will privately and securely deliver my best high value icebreakers! 🙂

  • Sheri

    Reply Reply June 28, 2019

    David thanks so much for this free lesson and I feel I learned a lot but it got me thinking. I started thinking back to my younger days when according to you and your lesson I was doing things pretty well getting the guy interested but I am wondering if i did it too well or what went wrong beyond that. Meaning I could hook a guy but never make it turn into something more. I wonder if you might have some ideas for why that would happen. I definitely don’t want it to happen anymore because at 48 I really want that committed relationship.

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 29, 2019

      Well, there’s a huge difference between a man showing signs of interest vs signs of commitment. (That’s a huge journey in itself) Getting interest is just a start, the next step is to build on that emotional attraction and connection, deepen the trust and bond as well as becoming his one and only. (If you haven’t gotten the DVD from Renee, it’s a good one… http://www.BHOODVD.com)

      We talk a lot more about that commitment journey in some of our other articles, emails and courses (Commitment Control 2) etc.

  • Michelle

    Reply Reply June 29, 2019

    I’d love to have the icebreakers you mentioned!

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply June 29, 2019

      Just go to http://www.HighValueIcebreaker.com and press the get started button. My chatbot in Facebook Messenger will privately and securely deliver my best high value icebreakers! 🙂

  • Sarah

    Reply Reply June 29, 2019

    Thank you for this! This was fantastic. It made so much sense. I think it will be so much easier to stay relaxed and self possessed now that I know this. Thanks again!

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply July 5, 2019

      You’re welcome!

  • Yana

    Reply Reply June 30, 2019

    Dr. Shein, thank you for your input and bringing a new perspective to online dating. I’m new to this web-world;) I’ve been on Tinder almost a month & Bumble for 5 weeks. The last one is not so popular in Russia:( I’m putting to practice your lines (hv icebreakers, pull&push lines). It’s interesting to see the responses& interactions. But somehow the chat doesn’t go further then for 2 days. Another thing, exidently I put nick name instead of my real name on profile. As a result, may be 1 out of 10 matches bothered to ask “what is your real name?” Sometimes I take the road asking back or in the beginning of chat: is your second name Handsome/Mr. Cool, etc? Do they care about the name?

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply July 5, 2019

      I think a lot of the time, men are careful of scams, therefore they want to know that at least you are a real person and you are who you say you are.

  • Cheryl

    Reply Reply July 2, 2019

    Do u have any books. I really don’t like the videos.

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply July 5, 2019

      Would you like a transcript?

  • Virginia Snape

    Reply Reply July 5, 2019

    I met my man on Tinder… I had just separated from a 32 year domestic abusive marriage and joined Tinder for a bit if fun and intrigue. I was brought up with FIVE brothers and have always “held my own” in regards to the masculine banter. In fact…. I thrived on it, and even prefer male companionship over female … feeling very exhilarated after a good session of banter with men. I have always managed to remain true to my feline/femine self and have never been considered a tomboy even though I preferred male company

    My new partner is very good at banter, and he met his match in me which totally surprised him… (i still surprise him ) … we still push and pull after 18 months of living together… and yes, sometimes we can go too far, but we both recognise that instantly and we ground each other with reassurance every time … oops… did I really say that??? Yup… you did!!! If we don’t laugh about it, then we know it’s a topic to nut out and grow from

    Our coffee date ended up with me staying with him for 17 days (We lived 3.5 hours away and he picked me up in His truck at a meeting point… I had done my homework on him) … I made sure that I was comfortable with him before we actually met,. After being in a marriage with a narcissist and after reading and researching all I could on NPD I was very aware of red flags and what to look out for

    But suffice to say, we both came away from our online dating chats with the biggest smiles on our faces …. he made me laugh, and I made him curious. In the end he said… I miss you, and I haven’t even met you yet! It was after that comment where I said…. okay, let’s do this… let’s wing it … why the he’ll not.

    Banter is fun … it works, and it still a very big part if our relationship

    • D. Shen

      Reply Reply July 5, 2019

      Great story Virginia! Thanks for sharing. (Wow, coffee date turned into a 17 day stay!)
      And yes, you’re right! Banter is something that should always be a big part of any intimate relationship long term.

  • Michelle

    Reply Reply July 7, 2019

    Hi David,

    I took this class because I was interested to see if I could learn something to assist me in communicating with my boyfriend via text. Our text communication has gotten a bit boring. I started being playful with him text and it worked immediately. I felt an instant shift. Still need to try the push and pull. Love the advice on leaning back. When I first began my journey of learning about relationship I found Rori Raye early on she has some good advice but the leaning back never worked for me now I know why. Thanks so much!

  • DeAnn Pryor

    Reply Reply July 10, 2019

    I need icebreakers!

    And more explanation on push and pull for sure!
    Thanks!

  • Sharon Dalessio

    Reply Reply July 15, 2019

    I tried the flirty banter. I had them eating out of my hands.

  • Kate Black

    Reply Reply July 27, 2019

    Yes please enroll me into the High Value Profile and Banter

  • Kate Black

    Reply Reply July 27, 2019

    I’m convinced that all you say is true. I simply don’t know the mechanics of how to banter. I was widowed years ago and after finishing raising my kids, I’m stepping out to date. I’m finding the love bombing thing happening, and because I don’t fall for it, I walk away from so many. Not sure if I’m missing out on some gems that derailed bc I don’t know how to banter. My late husband was the funny one – I was his straight man so to say. He made everyone laugh. I thrived on that. Just don’t know how to carry the ball on it.

  • PeaceDancer

    Reply Reply July 27, 2019

    Yes, I would like some high level ice breakers, very much!.

  • Enny

    Reply Reply July 28, 2019

    This kind of banter is exactly what brought me and my boyfriend together. He said that he loves me for my ability to outwit him and keep him on his toes. Before that we were friends and here’s my favorite example. I told him that I dreamed of him and this is what followed:
    He: I wonder what I sounded like in your dream compared with how my voice sounds in real.
    Me: Why would you sound different than in that video you once shared with me? It’s not like I never heard your voice.
    He: Oh God, that was buried so deep in my mind, I completely forgot about it!
    Me: Happens when you get old. (He often forgets things so I’m teasing him)
    He: That gives you something you look forward to. I’m the physical manifestation of what you’ll look like in two years.
    Me: I’ll never have a grey beard… hopefully… (He has a couple of grey beard hairs)
    He: Never say never. 😛
    Me: >.< (In this part I was playfully acting like I was not happy)
    He: I can see you like an old hairy Italian grandma who overfeeds her grandkids. Aaaaaand this is probably the part I'll be glared to death. XD
    Me: LOL. Well, at least they will look like their grandpa if I overfeed them. <.< (He is fat so I used that to tease him back, but also in the same sentence I'm implying that we will have grandchildren which shows that I'm interested in him)
    He: LMFAO! Or you are just perfect! Finally someone who can give and take… So much fun hehehe
    Me: 😛

  • Lori

    Reply Reply August 1, 2019

    DavidShen, I noticed you were drinking bourban in that class. Am I allowed?

  • Sarah

    Reply Reply August 25, 2019

    Great content thank you. You are both amazing. You should charge for these videos, a small amount for each one as we are getting great value from them

  • T.H

    Reply Reply August 25, 2019

    I definitely want to join your High Value Banter Class as an Early Bird.
    thank you for all your incredible advice!!

  • B

    Reply Reply August 25, 2019

    D,
    What if one does not do online dating? Thanks

  • Teri

    Reply Reply August 27, 2019

    I missed your class on building a high value profile and high value banter. When will you be offering it again? I’ve just started listening to your classes and signed up on your Facebook. I am finding the content very helpful entertaining and something I want to use as my approach has been very lackluster over the years and created nothing but frustration. Looking forward to hearing so much more from you and helping myself grow.

  • Lynne

    Reply Reply September 11, 2019

    I would like more information about joining your class to learn more about how to be high value even when online dating

  • Lynne

    Reply Reply September 11, 2019

    I would also like to know some ice breakers for women to use when meeting a guy….Things she should and can say to him

* Denotes Required Field